Happiness and Relationships (Final)

Nick Argent                                                                                                               Nov, 15, 2010

MCHS

                                                        Love Relationships

Relationships are an extremely big part of people's lives. Some take it way too far. Others find it to be really bothersome. Some love it, some hate it. Unfortunately most people view them the wrong way. Most look for the outer qualities before picking their “loved” one. In reality, it’s what’s on the inside that counts. However, people abuse this quality and only focus on the outer beauty. Usually this occurs in young teenagers, because they’re not looking for serious relationships. The way someone looks at love can heavily affect the impact of their relationship in the long run. Going out with a good looking person at first may seem great until you find out how bad they can really be on the inside. Most people tend to feel dating the prettiest girl or most handsome guy is the way to go, until they find out that what they’re doing is wrong when they end up getting hurt.

     Love relationships are really bad sometimes because people end up look for the wrong features in a person. A lot of them go after looks instead of personality, which isn't the way to look at someone. If someone were to date the person for their looks because she/he looked pretty/handsome, then you'd be skipping over the consideration of who they really are. Who they really are meaning, how they act and what they do. This will never make someone happy, especially if you're looking for a serious relationship. If someone were to get to know the person more before jumping in to date them because they looked good, they may realize how much a mistake it would be go to out with them. If the person you were going for was really amazing, had an awesome personality, treated you like you were someone important to them, and made you feel special, then that's someone worth going for. If they were also very attractive, that'd be a bonus.
     Though lots of people end up with a nice person they're happy with, a lot of the time they get left for someone "better." People don't know what they have until they lose it. And when they lose that person they really did love and thought they didn't because the one they went for ended up being a jerk or mean, then the two of them end up being uneasy about each other and omitting being together and ending up feeling sad anyway.  

There are so many different ways people portray love wit relationships. But when they come together in perfect form it may be the best thing in the world. People generally don’t view it that way often, however. Most portray it as loving a person for outer beauty rather than loving them for their internal features. Being in a high school environment and viewing relationships of a sort, notice of this occurs very often. The view of a high school student saying to his friend “yo she look good son?” “Hell yeah!” says to any witness that they’ve used the girl for her outer beauty rather than her inner beauty. Though many young teens ages 14-18 generally don’t look for much else other than their appearance. When you meet someone for the first time what you usually see first is their looks. Based on their looks is what people usually judge to see if they want to view you as. But it is only later that they see who you really are.

The biggest mistake one makes is picking someone they wouldn't enjoy life with.  The way people view love is mostly only real until one is older in their life. People don't view it as of much importance when they're of a young age. They use it usually for sex, or to just be with the most beautiful girl/most handsome guy. Though a younger generation may not view it as much importance, older people in their 20's or 30's see what live truly is. Though many people of that age tend to misuse love as well. It's mainly the younger sort though. They don't understand that love is a deep thing, not something you use for a minute then toss aside when you're done with it. Love isn't just a napkin, it's a whole towel (something you keep using and stick with).

              Unfortunately though, love relationships are usually the most painful. Once one realizes the true meaning of love, their heart is more easily broken. Which is most likely why many older people wish they were young again. In truth it may seem like "using" love may be the best thing to do to keep yourself happy, but if you use love well, it's the best thing in the world.

“To succeed with the opposite sex, tell her you're impotent. She can't wait to disprove it.” (Cary Grant). Upon looking up what “impotent” meant…the first definition of it states “lacking power or force.” Let’s not get into the second definition. What is meant by this is that the man in the relationship resembles the “might” of the relationship. Women are usually dependant on their guy. And for a man to break it because he found someone better ruins everything. He would have had a perfectly good girl who thought well of him and loved him, and he left her for some “bimbo.”

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."(Love). As the website states, it’s a harmless quote, yet it’s an extremely painful thing on the person it’s being said to. These words mean that the person treasures them in their life, but if they left they’d be almost perfectly fine with it. The difference between “love” and “in love” is that if you’re “in love” with someone, you need them in your life, but if you “love” someone, you could still do without them. Of course there are other meanings, you can love your mom but not be in love with her. But referring to someone you just happened to meet, that’s what it basically means.

Love isn’t an easy thing. It’s very complex and it just really confuses you a lot of the time. You could love someone and the next minute they’re gone. They often never work out well. Most of the time they never really do, and it can be one of the most painful things you’ll ever experience. But one thing to remember is, if they’re beautiful on the outside, it doesn’t always mean they’re beautiful on the inside.

                                                               Work Cited
Grant, Cary. Relationship Quotes. Abumdance-and-Happiness.com. November 15^th. [http://www.abundance-and-happiness.com/relationship-quotes.html]

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Love Relationship DRAFT

     Relationships are an extremly big part of people's lives. Some take it way to far. Others fiund it to be really bothersome. Some love it, some hate it. Relationships are really complicated sometimes, especially love relationships.
     Love relationships are really bad sometimes because people sometimes look for the wrong features in a person. A lot of them fo after looks instead of personality, which isn't the way to look at someone. If someone were to date the person for their looks because she/he looked pretty/handsome, then you'd be skipping over the consideration of who they really are. Who they really are meaning, how they act and what they do. This will never make someone happy, especially if you're looking for a serious relationship. If someone were to get to know the person more before befoore jumping in to date them because they looked good, they may realize how much a mistake it would be go to out with them. If the person you were going for was really amazing, had an awesome persinality, treated you like you were someone important to them, and made you feel special, then that's someone worth going for. If they were also very attractive, that'd be a bonus.
     Though lots of people end up with a nice person they're happy with, a lot of the time they get left for someone "better." People don't know what they have until they lose it. And when they lose that person they really did love and thought they didn't because the one they went for ended up being a jerk or mean, then the two of them end up being uneasy about eachother and omiting being together and ending up feeling sad anyway.

Blog Homework: Rebelian

Nick Argent                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        10/12/10

MCHS

                                                                               Beating the Flaws

I’ve never liked being constricted to things. I like to express myself and show off the creative side in me. Generally speaking, I’m just a creative person who wants people to enjoy my writings. I often found it troublesome to have to constrict myself to a single topic and give myself limitations. I’ve been wanting to break the barrier every time the task is given. That usually results in getting a bad grade on the essay which wants me to focus on one topic. I barely managed to slide through my last writing class, not because my papers weren’t interesting, but because I wouldn’t shut up about that single topic.

My problem is constriction. I rebel against things to much. I like to do things my way, which really isn’t the best way unfortunately. I need to set my boundaries and limitations. I need to focus more on the “prize” rather than just doing it my way. Staying on one topic is what will help me pass this class so I’ll have the opportunity to do better and to get through the class. Once the class is done with I’ll get to express my creativity in a creative writing class, but not now. I need to get the mind set out of my head for this class that it’s not about the reader being pleased by that writing; it’s about my ability to not shut up about one thing.

The bad part about what I’ve been doing is, it’s not what they want. Doing what I want isn’t what they want, so it results in a bad grade. When I stay on the topic, I’m following their rules, which allows me to get a better grade. There are good parts to this though. Constriction may help in my future writings. An example is, if there’s something of vital importance in the story. If I were to shift from sentence to sentence getting off the topic of the valuable thing/person, it might confuse the reader, and making me a bad writer. Learning how to control any one topic may be extremely valuable. If I were to master this ability it would surely help m a great deal in my future writings. All I do now is for my future, that’s why I should gain a better understanding of all sorts of different writing styles I can before it’s too late. By to late I mean my school not paying for my college classes anymore.

A major problem is, how am I going to fix this situation? It’s never been my thing to talk about one thing for too long because from my point of view that’s just really boring. But again as I’ve said above, it’s not what they want, so I won’t receive a good grade on it. Staying on topic is just a difficult thing for me, but with practice I think I can set my boundaries and learn my limitations. Once I got it in the mindset that it’s not what I want, it help me realize I need to follow what they want in order to eventually get what I want.

I still have a long road ahead of me. Focusing on future writings won’t help my writing now. That’s why I have to do all I can to master the writing style given to me now so that my dream of having a creative writing class can one day become true. Though if I end up doing what I’ve been doing, I’ll never make it there. As I’ve said, this writing style may also help me in the long run. Such as structure and certain rules that help improve your writing whereas it just being a pointless rule they made up. Overall I just want to pass this course so I can do what I love. That’d make me happy…

What I learned about myself?

Well I think I learned next to nothing. Sure I mean like, I know I want to be a writer! But it depends on which one. See, I've not done much research on the matter so I don't know if I want to be a technical writer, a novelist, fictional writing, anything really. I don't even mind what I write as long as I get paid...well...except journalism...that just sounds annoyingly tiring. You know...maybe I should research which makes more money! The thing is, I enjoy writing in a large variety of ways; so it doesn't really matter what I do with the writing. Mays well write for what will make me more money right? Though there's a risk...what if the tech writer makes more money but the books I write become best sellers and I make millions? Who knows what will happen...it's really all a gamble...I guess I'll try both if I have time! Maybe I'll have tine for both, and make double the money and still enjoy it! Yeah...that's perfect...

Happiness and Work

Many of the happiness one wants to experiance is the joy of doing what you love. If one gets stuck in a job they don't like then how would they enjoy it? They wouldn't find it enjoyable and that's why people hate their jobs. If people were to do what they love then they would love their job and love their work. It might even make you a workaholic but it wouldn't matter to you because you're getting paid to do what you love. That's the best kind of work there is.
How happiness and work would relate to me would be that I enjoy to write and I would love to write in my future. I don't know if I can start on that right away, but if I can I'll love my job! Loving your job is what makes happiness happen. You're not happy if you're not enjoying what you're doing. This is why having something you enjoy doing will make me happy and almost anyone happy mainly.

Blog homework 2

Nick Argent                                                                                                                                                        10/2/10

MCHS

                                                  How am I going to be happier in education? (HW 2)

                School’s a stressful place. Graduating high school right now is my greatest goal. Though I have all the credits I need to graduate, I don’t have the in the right order. I’ve got 12 math credits because I’m terrible at it. I finally passed my math regents with a 66, which I’m happy about. Though now I don’t have a math class, and I still have an SAT to pass, I don’t know what I’m going to do. Not only that, but in order to graduate I also have to pass my oral defense. The oral defense is a two hour presentation on three projects. I only need to take two regents because my school is different. I took a lot of college classes in my junior year, though the problem with that is junior year I only had math and US History classes as high school classes. I’m terrible in both of them. And oral defense only allows upper division projects. I’ve not gotten projects in Italian, or projects back in my other college classes. This is why I’m so stressed out. I need to get through this semester so I’ll have something to present. It’s maddening! But I have to work my ass off this semester. So much is going on right now that I can’t seem to tolerate with. I’ve got this paper to write, a draft on a Hurricane Katrina project coming up for US History, I’m required to read the entire Animal Farm book because there’ll be a test on Monday and I’m losing my mind.  This is not making me happy. I’d love to have a mini summer vacation right now just to catch up. I’ve been hearing I’ll have to go to tutoring next week for math in order to pass my SAT. This is all coming down so hard on me. It would make me happy if I wasn’t under all this stress. But I guess I’ll just have to suffer through it to be happy.

                Now that I’ve let all that out, I would like to be positive. It would make me extremely happy to pass this class and take creative writing. The kind of writing with structure isn’t my thing. In my world there aren’t any rules in writing, it’s what the reader enjoys. It would make me happy to make them happy in other words. When they read a paper I don’t want them saying “Ugh, another few boring paragraphs I’ve got to read!” I want to be noticed, I want to be the unique writer. I want to be the one with the enjoyable piece to read. I want people to enjoy, not dread, what I write. I believe that instead of structuring things into a perfect unenjoyable essay, you should have the option of letting creativity explode. That’s just my opinion. All that would make me happy as can be, because I love to write. I love writing anything given as a topic to write about. Give me a topic, and I’ll have written a page in a little over 10 minutes. My only depressing complaint is that I got a check minus every time I wrote a paper in the last writing class I took all because of structure. It had nothing to do with creative ideas to help benefits, it was all because I didn’t stay on that boring topic the entire time.  It’d make me happy if I could take something like that now. But I’ve got to wait longer.

                I’ve got lots to figure out. I don’t know how to do it exactly. But I’m going to try my best! I’ve got so much on my mind that it’s hard to stay happy.  It’s a tough world, I just hope that in the end I can stay happy in its conclusion.